American social habits are confusing sometimes. We ask people how they are but don't want to hear the truth. We expect a pleasant, predictable answer of three words or less. “Fine, thanks,” usually does it. If we actually try telling the person how we feel, their eyes glaze over or wander off to somebody else and we find we are basically talking to ourselves because no one is actually listening. You can usually tell, by their response, that they're not interested because they'll say something totally unrelated.